Key takeaways
- A cancer diagnosis is not only a major event for the person diagnosed, but also for their loved ones, friends and colleagues
- The impact of caring can be physical, psychological, emotional and practical; many carers do not know where to go for help or feel they deserve it
- The most important aspect of looking after yourself as a carer is to have compassion for your situation and how you feel about it
As a carer, you likely have very little time to look after yourself – physically, emotionally, psychologically and/or socially – or don’t feel you can prioritise yourself. This is the case for the vast majority of carers. But if you burnout as a carer, what happens to the person you’re caring for? Understand that caring for yourself is a really important part of caring for others. If you can allow the person living with cancer to have even a bit of self-management, insist on it. They’ll feel more empowered, and you can take some time to look after yourself.
Seven ways to support yourself
1. Practice self-compassion
Even though you’re a carer, you’re still allowed to be yourself, to have fun or go out for coffee. Asking for and accepting help, as well as sharing your caring responsibilities, is an important aspect of self-compassion.
2. Prioritise rest and relaxation
It can be helpful to find something you enjoy that feels calming. This could be time in nature, meditation, yoga or a hobby – anything you can do to switch off and bring you some peace.
3. Connect with others
Sometimes sharing your experience is often easier with strangers than with your own support network, and talking to others in similar situations can really help. A lot of charities have friends and family groups or support for loved ones and carers.
4. Get practical advice
As a carer, there will come a time when you’ll need advice around practical matters like finances or employment rights. Macmillan, Citizens Advice Bureau and Maggie’s centres all have these resources.
5. Look after your physical health
As a carer, it’s easy to overlook your own health needs, but attending regular check-ups and seeking medical advice when necessary is important.
6. Manage stress
Incorporate stress-relief practices into your daily routine, such as deep breathing exercises, meditation or physical activity. These practices can help reduce anxiety and improve mental resilience.
7. Seek emotional support
It’s important to talk about how you’re feeling. Depending on your own support network, you could talk to a partner or family member, friend, health or social care professionals or a support group.
While we have ensured that every article is medically reviewed and approved, information presented here is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you have any questions or concerns, please talk to one of our healthcare professionals or your primary healthcare team.